8 Things I Learned When I Was 29
My year between 29 and 30 has been one of incredible learning experiences. I feel like I’ve grown more in the past year than I had in previous years. I honestly feel like a totally different person than I did last year. I’m not saying that I’ve become a completely different person, but I feel like I understand things better. I feel more grounded and balanced, despite the fact that my life has gotten a lot crazier work-wise. Here’s a little list of 8 lessons I learned in the past year. The fact that each of these headers could be the title of a self-help book is not lost on me!
1. Speaking My Truth: Melanie, my intuitive guide, told me this during our first meeting in April 2011. And I’ve tried to do this ever since. It’s not as easy as it sounds. Speaking your truth means that you’re always honest; it means that you’re not sugar-coating the truth or agreeing with people just to avoid confrontation. In fact, it invites confrontation—the healthy kind. Speaking my truth over the past year has helped me show people who I really am but, interestingly, it’s helped me better see who other people really are based on their reactions to MY TRUTH.
2. Purge, Purge, Purge: In every sense of the word. I evaluate what’s in my life: whether it be an object or a person and I ask myself “Is this adding value to my life or just taking up space?” If it’s the latter, I then remove it from my life. This is super hard! Especially with people! We all have those people in our lives who we try to avoid…but (I know I’m not the only one) I still feel bad about not wanting to hang out with them. I still have a tiny bit of guilt but not as much as I did last year. I’ve gotten pretty good at not people-pleasing and not keeping things around the house for the sake of it.
3. I Have Limits: I have been known to take on any project that comes my way. This year, I learned how to say no to jobs. I even (kindly) denied resumes services to a potential client whom I sensed would be a total pain and I am very proud of myself for doing so. The old me would’ve taken her on and hated every minute of my life until she was out of it!
4. Saying Au Revoir: I learned how to let people come in and out of my life without taking offense or getting upset about it.
5. What Makes a Good Friend: This is perhaps the greatest thing that I’ve learned in the past 12 months. I seriously get emotional when I think about it! I’m not going to bother expressing what that means to me, because we all have our ideas about friends. But all I can say is that it’s been a tough year for me and my friends have been so, so, so wonderful, supportive, encouraging, and FUN and I can’t thank them enough. I seriously have the best friends in the world.
6. Dancing Can Happen When You’re Completely Sober: Did you ever think that would happen?! Either I’ve lost all shame or I’ve just gotten really good at dancing but I can dance all night without having had one drink in me. Of course, drinks still help but sometimes, a girl doesn’t feel like having an alcohol but she still wants to have fun. Know what I mean?
7. It’s OK Not to Do Dishes for a Week! Well, at least I keep telling myself that it’s ok.
8. Traveling is the Best Medicine: THIS IS THE TRUTH. Get the hell out of town and feel better about everything and BONUS, return with a new, fresh perspective. When I’m home too long, I just feel overwhelmed and confused. I feel like everything makes total sense when I’m on vacation. Is once per month too much?